10 of the Very Best Poems about Grief and Mourning
The finest poems about grief
Grief is a part of life, and we will all know what it is to mourn at some point in our lives. Here are ten of the finest poems about the experience of grieving and mourning, taken from over 600 years of poetry…
Anonymous, ‘Why have ye no routhe on my child?’ This poem is a lament for a lost child: ‘rode’ is the ‘rood’ or Cross, and ‘routhe’ is ‘ruth’ or compassion – which is why someone who lacks compassion is described as ‘ruthless’. Click on the link above to read the poem, which is the sixth on our list of the best medieval poems. It’s the oldest poem on this list, dating back at least six centuries to the late fourteenth century, though it may be even older.
John Donne, ‘A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning’. As this poem’s title suggests, it’s a poem of farewell, written by Donne for his wife Anne in 1611-12 before he left England to go on a mission to Europe. Utilising metaphors of compass points and alchemical processes to describe the relationship between the husband and wife, ‘A Valediction’ is one of the finest examples of Metaphysical poetry.
Robert Herrick, ‘The Bad Season Makes the Poet Sad’. Robert Herrick (1591-1674) was a Royalist who, following the English Civil War and the execution of King Charles I in 1649, penned this poem grieving for the loss of the king: ‘everything / Puts on the semblance here of sorrowing.’ For Herrick, the whole land seems to grieve for Charles and the loss to the kingdom that his death signifies.
Alfred Tennyson, In Memoriam A. H. H. Written over the course of sixteen years, between 1833 and 1849, In Memoriam A. H. H. was published in 1850, the year Tennyson became UK Poet Laureate. Over the course of 133 cantos comprising many more quatrains rhymed abba, Tennyson explores and records the grief he felt in response to the sudden death of his close friend, Arthur Henry Hallam.
Emily Dickinson, ‘Grief is a Mouse’. Although this Emily Dickinson poem explores a range of metaphors for grief, its opening analogy is to a mouse, which ‘chooses Wainscot in the Breast / For His Shy House’. The idea is that grief is deeply felt, but hidden away: like a mouse in the wainscot, we are aware of it continually, but we never (or seldom) see it.
Christina Rossetti, ‘One Sea-Side Grave’. Written in 1853 and published in 1884, this little poem contains many of the features and themes we find in Rossetti’s poem elsewhere: mourning, death, remembering, love. Here, of course, mourning and death are the most significant.
Edna St. Vincent Millay, ‘Time does not bring relief’. Time is a healer, they say. Consoling and reassuring words, but what if time doesn’t appear to be easing the pain of grief? This sonnet puts forward such a notion: that if anything, the speaker’s grief has become stronger with time, rather than being soothed by the passing of days, weeks, months. Ironically, reading such a poem may help with grief (as Sheila Hancock found in the wake of her husband, John Thaw), because it gives a voice to something we feel when trying to find a way through the grieving process.
W. H. Auden, ‘Stop All the Clocks’. Also known as ‘Funeral Blues’, this poem reached a whole new audience when it was recited by John Hannah’s character in the 1994 film Four Weddings and a Funeral. What use is the world if it does not have the one we love contained within it? When they are gone, everything becomes pointless, useless, colourless. This feeling of grief and despair is what Auden’s poem captures so well.
Dylan Thomas, ‘A Refusal to Mourn the Death, by Fire, of a Child in London’. Written during WWII when London was frequently being bombed by the Germans, this poem – as its title makes clear – rejects the usual response to death, especially the death of a young girl. What sounds like a heartless premise is anything but: Thomas’s argument in the poem is that it is odd and inappropriate to mourn one particular death (especially when ‘mourning’ in itself does no good) when there is so much suffering in the world, and always has been. Listen to Thomas reading this poem here.
Tony Harrison, ‘Long Distance II’. Stephen Spender (1909-95) said of Tony Harrison’s series of elegies for his parents that they were the sort of poetry he felt he’d been waiting his whole life for. This poem sees the poet reflecting on the grief his father felt following Harrison’s mother’s death, before turning to consider Harrison’s response to the death of his father.